Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Newbie with questions about safety

From: Mimsy Sadofsky <mimsys_at_comcast.net>
Date: Fri Dec 1 22:06:02 2006

My guess is that all the schools have published rules. We certainly
do, in the Sudbury Valley School Handbook, available through our
online bookstore at sudval.org.
Mimsy Sadofsky
mimsys_at_comcast.net

On Dec 1, 2006, at 9:12 PM, Naomi Rivkis wrote:

>
>> The first is that the enrolling child has reached a
>> maturity that
>> will allow him/her to be free within the boundaries
>> of the school's
>> rules. For instance, kids who go in the street if
>> they are told not
>> to are not yet ready to enroll. Crossing streets is
>> hard, takes
>> skills and maturity, and kids should approach
>> streets slowly and as
>> they are ready. I have a grandson who I felt
>> couldn't cross a busy
>> street until he was about 10 (I am sure I was wrong,
>> but not very
>> wrong), whereas I was allowed to cross an extremely
>> busy city street
>> at 6. Different kids mature differently. Most 4 or
>> 5 year olds are
>> perfectly capable of staying out of the water if
>> told that the rules
>> say they can't go in the water. It is once again
>> maturity. (Some
>> children are born cautious; others learn it later,
>> but we would just
>> as soon none of them did death-defying feats at
>> school!)
>>
>> Being a victim of a random drive-by shooting? Is
>> there a way to
>> prevent that? A lot of people would like to know
>> what it is if there
>> is. But being moderately cautious around strangers
>> is not so hard to
>> teach to those few kids who aren't born knowing it.
>> I don't know of
>> any Sudbury schools that allow very young children
>> the freedom of
>> wandering the streets alone!
>
> Thanks very much for the answer, Mimsy; I didn't know
> this. I think I was under the impression that there
> were, by design, no school rules whatever about who is
> permitted to leave campus, or with whom, or where they
> could go unaccompanied.
>
> My daughter, at not quite three, is already old enough
> that I can trust her not to go someplace I tell her
> not to, with occasional reminders when she forgets
> because at her age there is SO much she has to sort
> out about the way the world works and what the rules
> are. I feel very confident that by the time she's five
> or so and enrolling at Fairhaven is an option, she
> will not need that kind of regular reminder about the
> basics, and in that case, if she is told (by the
> school rules or by me) that she is not to go off the
> grounds without an older child in tow, or not to go in
> the water except when there is a designated water
> activity, she will follow the rules.
>
> What I wasn't sure, and you seem to have answered it
> and I very much appreciate the information, was that
> the schools either had such rules or that they
> sanctioned parents setting them. I sort of see
> street-crossing or independent wandering in urban
> areas as a complicated tool, for which a kind of
> 'certification' is necessary like any other
> complicated and dangerous tool. You can have the
> freedom to use the area outside the grounds when you
> prove that you have the skill and judgment to do so
> properly. But I wasn't sure the schools had any
> mechanism for this or that they would be happy with a
> parent making their own such requirement for their
> child. I'm very relieved to know that they do, and I
> agree that for a child old enough to be taking on
> responsibility for themself at all, knowing that there
> is a rule and why that rule exists is probably most of
> the time enough to get them to respect it. And, as you
> say, when impulse strikes and they sometimes forget,
> there is generally another kid around to say hey,
> that's not a good idea. Or to offer company -- I
> wouldn't at all mind my five-year-old going out with a
> street-savvy twelve-year-old or somesuch!
>
> In general, I'd like to know more about what sort of
> rules the school communities have seen fit to set for
> themselves. Do any of the schools release their
> written rules to outsiders? I'd be fascinated to read
> them.
>
> Naomi
>
>
>
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