RE: [Discuss-sudbury-model] 7 Lessons Taught in School

From: Marilu Diaz <>
Date: Tue Nov 28 15:35:01 2006

The fact that you are able to witness your natural children's behavior when
interacting with others (in your presence) would proof that you don't have
to disappear from their sight (or daily life) in order for them to feel
comfortable being themselves even while you are around.

I believe that every child must be able to choose if he/she wants to have
the parents around. Some children feel very comfortable hanging around
their parents or adult family (and a lot of families provide the freedom,
acceptance and support of them as individuals through non-judgmental


[] On Behalf Of Caren
Sent: Tuesday, November 28, 2006 1:38 PM
Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] 7 Lessons Taught in School


I don't see it as "protecting" them from me. We are currently unschooling. I
have seen first-hand how differently my boys act when not around me -- it's
just a fact of life. We have a wonderful, open relationship - aided by the
unschooling process, and now through consensual living ( ) but the fact remains, they are their own
people, and my presence affects their behavior.


I think the history of Sudbury Valley School speaks for itself in this
regard. The autonomy of the child is paramount, and because of the
inherently dependent relationship kids have with their parents, it would be




in Charlotte, NC



On Nov 28, 2006, at 12:16 PM, wrote:


This distresses me also. There is an unspoken assumption

that children need to be protected from their parents -- the

very people who love and care about them the most. This

mindset exemplifies a lack of trust and faith in the laws

of nature and in the importance of human's trusting themselves

to do what is correct for their children. How can we ignore the

heap of anthropological studies which show historically how

children thrive and flourish as they grow up along side of their

parents - without being "protected" by any institution!


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