RE: [Discuss-sudbury-model] 7 Lessons Taught in School

From: Eli Roth <>
Date: Tue Nov 28 13:01:10 2006

It just seems artificial to me to segregate two parts of my child's life
- school and non-school. While I understand the logistical necessity of
having a separate location for the operation of the school, the
exclusion of parents makes this segregation more complete than it needs
to be. Regardless of her independence, I am a part of my child's life,
just as she is of mine. I allow her to come to work with me to observe
(and help where possible if she wishes) because I do not want to have a
secret life that she cannot be a part of. It would be nice if the
school environment were open the same way - perhaps only at the child's
request in order to protect that independence. My daughter has
repeatedly asked me to be there and so, obviously, does not like the
exclusion either. The school does allow parents to act as volunteers,
but does not otherwise allow a parent to be at the school for more than
15 minutes at a time.
-----Original Message-----
[] On Behalf Of Caren
Sent: Tuesday, November 28, 2006 9:38 AM
Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] 7 Lessons Taught in School
I don't see it as "protecting" them from me. We are currently
unschooling. I have seen first-hand how differently my boys act when
not around me -- it's just a fact of life. We have a wonderful, open
relationship - aided by the unschooling process, and now through
consensual living ( ) but the fact
remains, they are their own people, and my presence affects their
I think the history of Sudbury Valley School speaks for itself in this
regard. The autonomy of the child is paramount, and because of the
inherently dependent relationship kids have with their parents, it would
be compromised.
in Charlotte, NC
On Nov 28, 2006, at 12:16 PM, wrote:

This distresses me also. There is an unspoken assumption
that children need to be protected from their parents -- the
very people who love and care about them the most. This
mindset exemplifies a lack of trust and faith in the laws
of nature and in the importance of human's trusting themselves
to do what is correct for their children. How can we ignore the
heap of anthropological studies which show historically how
children thrive and flourish as they grow up along side of their
parents - without being "protected" by any institution!
Received on Tue Nov 28 2006 - 12:59:10 EST

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