Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] what would you do?

From: Ann Ide <>
Date: Fri Nov 11 10:22:00 2005

Actually, he is not shy at all with his friends, and most people, for that matter ! Sometimes, he is even a little too outspoken! I bet any SVS staff reading this are going, "What?" This seems to be a very contextual thing happening. It just doesn't "fit" the textbook picture of the model, hence my inquiry. Out of all the years, and all the children at SVS, and other Sudbury schools, I doubt this is the only occurence of such a thing.

So, do I get involved somehow ?


  ----- Original Message -----
  From: Ryan Singer
  Sent: Thursday, November 10, 2005 9:06 PM
  Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] what would you do?

  I noticed two things from your email:

  1. Your child is very shy/non-assertive
  2. You have an excellent rapport with him.

  It might be a good idea to have a general talk with him about how he feels when other people don't get excited about the things he likes and/or how he feels about being shy in general. Being shy is not a personality flaw, but sometimes shy people are eager to learn how to be more assertive and just need help learning. I wouldn't worry too much, you sound like a very good mother and I am sure that your son is growing up well.

  On 11/10/05, Ann Ide <> wrote:
    Hi all,

    My eleven year old son has a strong interest in learning to draw Japanese Manga. There are some older students at school who know how, and are quite good at it. However, he says he is too shy to ask them, so he is just resigning about it. He also wants to learn Japanese, but was told by a staff that she didn't know anyone at school who knew it and he should just do a search on it. And that was the end of school, anyway. He still persists about it at home, and does what he can on his own with library books and on-line. But it's not really enough. In the past, he wanted to get some Improv going; but that went nowhere, too. This dismays me. Is there any point when it is appropriate for me to intervene? If he hasn't developed the assertiveness, and belief in the possibility, for it to happen, do we just let it go until/if he does? Everything written about the model says it is a place where students can pursue their interests. Obviously his other interests are being satisfied there; but what about these which require a bit more to make them happen? It doesn't seem right that we should have to pursue such things outside of school. I understand the staff can't cover every interest. Therefore, shouldn't outside resources be brought in, especially if we pay extra to cover the extra cost?

    What thoughts do you have about this?

    Ann Ide

  Ryan Singer
Received on Fri Nov 11 2005 - 10:21:09 EST

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