Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] searching for sudbury

From: Scott David Gray <>
Date: Wed Sep 21 10:39:00 2005

Hi Cheryl,

There are all kinds of issues with home-schooling, to be
sure. In addition to being extraordinarily expensive (at
least one parent out of the workforce a significant amount
of the time), it has its own other minuses -- mostly that
children want to be with other children, and that it's
healthy for children to spend some time away from the
nuclear family.

I wish that I could give you very specific advice on what to
look for in a school. Unfortunately, I don't think that
there is anything in your area that resembles a Sudbury
school. I'd say that, if moving to an area with a Sudbury
School isn't a possibility, your next best bet is to try and
cobble together a situation in which:
  A: The end of the day at school *is* the end of the day
(no homework).
  B: There are other kids, who ideally live locally so that
it's easy to spend time with them on evenings and weekends.
  C: It's possible to take the school 'stuff' with a grain
of salt -- where your child will know, as much as possible,
that the things important to the school authorities are
*not* necessarily what's important to Mom. It wasn't until I
was 10 years old that I was enrolled in a Sudbury school --
but the fact that my parents offered me *support* when I
refused to do homework and skipped school went a *long* way
to helping me feel a sense of self and respect even in a
very bad school environment.

  I'd also watch this space, and the list of schools
maintained at, for word
about a Sudbury school in your part of the world -- the
Sudbury style of education has been expanding, and maybe
someday soon one will start in your area.
  I would also consider very, very, carefully, how important
it is to stay where you are. A number of families have
relocated to areas where there are Sudbury schools, and I
haven't heard any regret that decision.

--Scott David Gray
reply to:
It takes most men five years to recover from a college
education, and to learn that poetry is as vital to thinking
as knowledge.
-- Brooks Atkinson
On Wed, 21 Sep 2005, cheryl huff wrote:
> Thanks very much for your note, Karen. I am very much
> considering homeschooling, although I am not sure my son
> can imagine it.  I just found out about another local Mom
> who has taken her sons out - she has been a teacher in the
> public system for years - and plan to get in touch with
> her.  Homeschoolng is daunting for a single mother, sole
> support, but many people say it is possible.  All best
> wishes, Cheryl
> cheryl huff
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: Karen Locke 
> To:
> Sent: 9/20/2005 8:53:07 AM 
> Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] searching for sudbury
> I homeschooled my son (and 6-yr-younger daughter) for 6 years.  I was in a similar situation - no acceptable schools nearby, didn't have other options.  We are all glad we did it.  There are often other homeschoolers around if you seek them out.  We actually started a homeschool group based on SVS ideas, meeting 3 days a week at a church.  Both my kids eventually wanted to go back to regular schools, but at least they knew about other ways to be and had confidence in themselves.
> Best wishes.  There are options, maybe even surprising ones!
> Karen
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: cheryl huff 
> To: 
> Sent: Tuesday, September 20, 2005 5:43 AM
> Subject: [Discuss-sudbury-model] searching for sudbury
> I am just beginning to look for a Sudbury model school for my 6 year old son.  I have  been unhappy with his very traditional classroom experience - Primary One (kindergarten) in Scotland was an attempt to "socialize" children into sitting still, working on worksheets and then going out to a play area which was very small, crowded and made of asphalt and stone with no equipment save a few tired elastic jumpropes and an old ball or two.  He came home bloody and often bitten.  He was mauled every day by a very large classmate and learned to hit and kick.  In spite of it all, he did well with numbers and words and we did much exploring of the Scottish coast, the museums and science centers of Edinburgh and Glasgow and several castles.  He learns best when allowed to explore things, especially 3 dimensional objects and loves to create sculptures, "machines" and systems with ropes, weights, branches...whatever he can find.
> Now we are back in America and he is at a charter school in coastal NC.  While many of our friends find it to be a great school, I feel he is just being molded into this cookie cutter role of 1st grader - they all must be reading by the beginning of 1st, and he isn't, but he is ahead in math, which is being ignored, so of course he feels like a loser.  He is rebelling against the non-stop structure of sitting and being quiet and isn't finding friends in the class - he doesn't even know many of the kid's names after 4 weeks of school.
> So, after this sad rant, can anyone give me ideas of what to look for in a school - and what I should be considering while I am looking?  I am an adjunct college instructor and need to live near enough to colleges (though I also teach online) to make a living as the sole support of us both.  I have considered homeschooling but want him to have an experience of working as a member of a community of learners.
> Any help is appreciated.
> cheryl huff
Received on Wed Sep 21 2005 - 10:37:04 EDT

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