Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] wait a minute

From: Richard Berlin <>
Date: Mon Apr 11 23:05:00 2005

No, I'm not simply hoping. What I said is that I can't be there to
make *all* of his decisions, so depending on holding the decision power
is a strategy which is destined to fail.

As far as protecting him from the particular threat you mention, I
listed a number of things, #1 of which is most pertinent for a

      1) try to avoid leaving him with an adult who will molest him
        2) set a good example
        3) give him information
        4) empower him to respect bodies and personal boundaries

If I choose well (and perhaps "Trust but Verify") #1 will keep him safe
for awhile, but in the meantime I had better be working on 2, 3 and 4.

-- Rich

On Apr 11, 2005, at 5:40 PM, Cha Mirija wrote:

> the best you can do is hope he decides not to let someone molest him?
> have you any idea how many pedophiles there are? and he's a
> pre-schooler???
> "Nudity and touching is agonizing, but *decision-making* is not open
> to  me.  Obviously I can try to avoid leaving him with an adult who
> will  molest him, and can set a good example in a variety of ways. 
> But I  can't be with him every minute of every day; how can I possibly
> claim  to have decision making ability over this?  The best I can do
> for him  is to give him information, and empower him (hopefully) to
> respect  bodies and personal boundaries, both his and other people's.
> "
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