Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Newbie with Question

From: Karen Locke <>
Date: Wed Dec 1 21:20:00 2004

I feel like I need to hop on the answer train here because my son began
trumpet lessons in gradeschool too. He had a lot of trouble, but being a
music teacher I also knew that he was somewhat talented and could do well if
he continued. However, I resisted pressuring him at all. He gave it up and
was very happy about it..

 Then about 4 years later he decided he wanted to play electric guitar.
That interest DID "stick". He played on and off,, not always practicing
every day or week, but sometimes working a lot at it.

Now he's 21 years old. He has his guitar out a lot-he owns a house (he
evidently has stick-to-it-ive-ness enough to make his payments, work part
time, and go to college) and he hosts "jams" with other musicians.

My observation of unschooling, is that we parents are the ones that need to
be schooled in relaxing and learning to stand back and watch them grow. It
is very hard, but very worth it!

----- Original Message -----
From: "Mary Torgersen" <>
To: <>
Sent: Wednesday, December 01, 2004 12:41 PM
Subject: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Newbie with Question

> Hello All,
> I absolutely love reading all the posts on this list. What a very
> interesting and passionate group! I am just thinking about Sudbury Valley
> for my 9 year old son. One of my concerns is that my son will not attempt
> things that he finds difficult. Even things he likes, like football, he is
> not willing or able to do his time to become better. For example, he
> wanted to take trumpet lessons
> (totally his idea). He was so excited. He immediately realized it was
> "hard" and has ceased practicing. Now he has fallen behind and unless I
> start mandating practice, I know he will not ever learn to play this
> instrument.
> So, my question is obvious at this point. How would he fare in the Sudbury
> Valley model? Sometimes I feel that the only reason he has learned as much
> math, science, and writing as he has is that he is required to do so in
> public school. If it were not required, I fear he would never be willing
> to work hard. Never gain the discipline to master things, but perhaps
> always just do enough to get by. Are some people just by nature like this?
> Or will everyone, given the space and time, come to master the things that
> are important to them.
> Thanks
> Mary
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