[Discuss-sudbury-model] For Allison: How did your change happen?

From: <Hunderhill_at_aol.com>
Date: Sat Aug 28 20:53:00 2004

I have a question. What caused you to flip from hating school to loving
school? How and why does it happen?

I'm on a teachers' list and someone recently posted the following:

from The Whole Earth Catalogue----(1970?)
"The Rising Sun Neighborhood Newsletter"

The only thing to teach is how to fall in love, how to be ready to fall in
love, what to do then to make it last, make it a lifetime thing, to teach
how to find out more about the beloved, to build something with the
beloved, within the beloved, to teach all this perhaps before love ever
happens so that when love comes, be it of caterpillars or dead painters or
wood and nails or computers that talk back, when it happens the feeling
doesn't dissipate into a hopeless infatuation----it must be wonderful to do
that, to know about that, but I can't---- but is a release of power like
real love that leads to knowing more because you know where to find it, to
cherishing and building in this love because you know that someone can tell you
how to do it and you keep looking until you find the one who can.

But others are afraid to teach love, and when they do, usually they teach
"love what I love" (change your major), not the techniques and
possibilities of taking something from the universe outside your skin,
anything from the universe outside your world, making it part of you and
helping it go on, not just be a spectator, but a doer of the thing you're
born to love. (Scholars don't do that much, libraries probably do it more
because they get out of the way and let it happen. Remember the little
kid who lived to look at Gauguin books in Goodbye Columbus.)

In a message dated 8/28/04 5:09:03 PM, klocke_at_mn.rr.com writes:

<< Hi Allison.

I am impressed that you are this far ahead with your daughter at such an
early age. I didn't find out about SVS until my son was about 4, and I didn't
ever get to put him in such a school (although we did a homeschool group based on
the model).

It seems to me that thinking about "educating" an infant or toddler is a
little dangerous. It implies active intervention, or planning. In these days of
baby flashcards it's probably even harder to resist intervening than it was
when my son was little 20 years ago.

To me one thing SVS has meant is struggling NOT to "educate". Babies and
toddlers have their own intrinsic "curricula" (learning language, standing,
walking, coping with frustration, etc.), which they are perfectly capable of
proceeding through with little or no intervention at all. So in addition to any of
the books above, I'd recommend books on dealing with one's own adult
frustration and issues with leaving children to work out their own difficulties. Any
books on processing your own issues are helpful too. My favorite in that vein
is "At the Speed of Life" By Gay and Kathleen Hendricks or books on recovery
from codependence. When we live through our children, expecting them to make
us happy or prove what good people we are instead of letting them live their
own lives, we are being codependent.


Karen Locke

  ----- Original Message -----

  From: Allison Tiffany-Goldstein

  To: discuss-sudbury-model_at_sudval.org

  Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 7:26 PM

  Subject: [Discuss-sudbury-model] How do you apply Sudbury model to early
childhood education?

  Hi Everyone!

  My name is Allison Tiffany-Goldstein, and I'm new to your discussion list.
I discovered Sudbury while researching alternative education on the Internet.
 I have a six month old baby girl, and I would like to know how I can apply
the Sudbury model to early childhood education. Can it be used in educating
your infant?

  My background is as follows.

    a.. Born and raised in New Jersey.

    b.. Mother was a public school teacher.

    c.. Attended public schools as a child. Graduated from high school in

    d.. B.S. in Secondary Education from public university.

    e.. J.D. from private college.

    f.. Enjoyed school and learning until 7th grade. Disliked school and
learning from 7th grade until senior year in college. Fell in love with school
and learning my senior year in college. Loved "learning" in law school but
strongly disliked the "boot camp" atmosphere of the law school "system."

    g.. I'm a stay home mom and live in Phoenix.

  I realized late in life that learning IS fun! There's just a lot of
teachers and school systems that make it awful. I want my daughter to have a
positive experience. Any advice?

  Thank you in advance.



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