Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] advice

From: Brian Schack <>
Date: Wed Sep 3 16:51:00 2003

Quoting Alan Klein <>:

> Hi Brian,
> It wasn't clear to me whether or not you were choosing to take the
> college
> classes or felt forced to take them. Thanks for clearing that up!
> It is certainly, and unfortunately, true that there is a law as to
> mandatory
> schooling. I suggest you treat it operationally as a fact of life. That
> is
> to say, although it is worthwhile to work to change the law, for now it
> is a
> part of your reality. On a day-to-day basis, unless you want to spend
> your
> time (and your parents' time) as a test case, compulsory schooling is as
> much a fact of your life as is the fact that your bedroom is a
> particular
> size. Wishing it were bigger will not make it so.
> It seems to me that you give up a lot of your own power by holding fast
> to a
> rule that, as your mother put it, you will "not do any learning that
> anyone
> else assigned (you)." While this may seem like a principled stand, it is
> more rigid than it has to be. Why let the fact of who assigned the work
> get
> in your way? Why not make your own decision on a case-by-case basis?
> Take
> back your power...the choice is (or can be) yours!
> I want to be clear that I 100% support the person who suggested you look
> into unschooling and/or into attending a democratic school,
> Sudbury-model or
> otherwise. If neither is an option, though, make the best choice you
> can,
> given the alternatives open to you, and then live fully in that choice.
> Treat it as the game it is!
> Example: My younger daughter decided to attend public school some years
> ago
> in order to have a larger social group. She is under no illusions,
> however,
> that the work assigned is important or useful, other than to get the
> grade
> she wants to get. Occasionally she finds a teacher or a subject
> interesting,
> but the majority of the time, she is playing the game...and playing it
> to
> the fullest! She does the minimum amount of work she needs to do to get
> the
> grade she wants. She plays with assignments, rather than seeing them as
> burdens...after all, doing the assignments is a logical result of the
> choice
> she made to attend public school. To get in a lather over them (as my
> grandmother used to say) would only weigh her down.
> Anyway, enough free advice. It's probably worth what you paid for it,
> anyway! I wish you much good luck as you forge your future!

I very much like this perspective. I plan to deal with school as you said until I can convince my
parents of a better alternative. Thank you.
Received on Wed Sep 03 2003 - 16:50:39 EDT

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