Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Learning to think.

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Date: Wed Sep 3 15:34:01 2003

Hi Helena,
My oldest of three who is now 25, is vocal and a strong personality. I
discussed with his pediatrician what I should do about the fact that at
three if there was a group of children in the playground invariably my son
would take charge, get the best toy, etc. He said, the children of this
world who were not assertive would have to learn to deal with people like
my son and it would be impossible to get into this mix a little bit. It
was a characteristic of him and life. I took his advice and have seen
exactly what he said happen. By the way, my son is very considerate, kind
and caring. I often see the notion of democracy being given the task of
making everyone's experience "equal". This is not possible or desirable in
my opinion. To learn to be okay when things are not okay is one of the
fundamental strengths of a child-driven experience. In my experience, the
person who "just goes along" will eventually find a place that they
absolutely will not go along. When they do, and they do it on their own,
it's fabulous.
Carol Hughes (mother of three sudbury grown children)

Original Message:
From: Helena Chester
Date: Wed, 3 Sep 2003 11:27:59 +1000
Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Learning to think.

I think there is a lot we agree on, and I am learning a lot from this list.
I am a bit proponent of free choice and natural consequences that are
organically attached to the choice, not imposed by someone else, (like the
law of gravity--choose to jump from a high building without special
equipment and you get the consequences of the law of gravity, whether you
believe in it or not). The thing that concerns me is that some people are
stronger personalities and very vocal, and I wonder how those who are more
placid and quieter get equality in a "democratic" system. Just from some of
the groups I've been in, a few do all the talking, and others often just go
along for the sake of peace.

----- Original Message -----
From: "Alan Klein" <>
To: <>
Sent: Wednesday, September 03, 2003 11:14 AM
Subject: Re: [Discuss-sudbury-model] Learning to think.

> The only accountability that is relevant in education is whether or not
> people want to come. When people get to choose their school and teacher
> we will see true accountability and reform; not before. Professional
> can only be balanced against personal freedom on the part of our clients,
> not against supposedly "objective" test scores, GPAs, etc.
> ~Alan
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Helena Chester" <>
> > I think we all do the best we know how at any particular time, but we
> > becoming cautious about jumping on the bandwagon for any particular way
> > doing things. The issue with big establishments is accountability, and
> > that is a difficult balancing act with professional freedom.
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