Re: DSM: Graduates without essential life skills

From: Alan Klein (
Date: Thu Nov 29 2001 - 23:41:40 EST

Great post, Bill!

Just to be clear, plasticine is a kind of clay that doesn't dry out. So I
guess Bill really meant playing WITH plasticine in his original message.

Your description of the "chronic attack" reminds me of a study I heard about
recently (I have no citation or attribution) in which they placed voice
activated recorders on little kids. It seems that fully 80% of the messages
the kids got (from parents, for the most part; these were two to four year
olds) were negative ("Don't", "No", "Stop", "Quiet", "Slow down", "Speed
up", etc.)


~Alan Klein

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> Constant chronic attack, leads to constant chronic defense. The child is
in a
> fight for their very survival, and so the defense is reasonable and
> necessary. But then the behavior becomes automated. Soon the defense
> will cripple them. Because the defense takes so much of their emotional
> energy.
> And then they arrive at Sudbury. And the description is that they at first
> just sit. They are resting. They can't believe the barrage is over.
> they are used to being attacked, literally, hundreds of times a day. (In a
> middle school math class, I once visited, the teacher said "shh", every
> word. That would be about once every three seconds, or a thousand times a
> class).
> So, then Sudbury fails to attack all day and all week and all month and
> year, year after year. And so the child, year after year fails to see the
> need to defend. And thus, arrives at undefended life. And now, freed from
> spending enormous amounts of energy defending themselves, they have
> amounts of energy to build their own lives and pursue their interests.
> Plasicine is just an example of what they create (with all this energy)
> they are free. A discription is found in "Kingdom of Childhood" (Sudbury
> Press). A description of defense is found in "The Fantasy Bond - Effects
> Psychological Defenses on Interpersonal Relations", Robert Firestone.


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