Christopher Weeks wrote:
Is this antisocial "meanness" the kind of psychological phenomenon that you feel
from your computer games at all?
Sometimes I escape into this race car game I am trying to master. There is this
one race in the snow through these treacherous mountains, and I just can't seem to
ever master the course. I try and try and eventually start getting frustrated. I
even start swearing out loud, even though my kids are around. If anyone tries to
interrupt me I get a little knarly. When finally stopping, usually because I have
to do something else, I feel exhausted and frustrated. In my mind I think "what a
fool I am, I would have been much better off playing with my three-year old or
staring out the window for an hour". After awhile though, I 'm ready to tackle the
game again!! I do agree with you to a point about the range of emotions. I still
love the thrill and even the frustration of competitive games. The agony of it all
can be excitingly dramatic. I just think that for me, right now, most games,
especially difficult games, are not worth it for me. But can I stop? Hmm.....
Thanks for your comments. I appreciate your insights.
Christopher Weeks wrote:
> Allan Saugstad wrote:
> > Just wanted to throw my two cents worth in on video games, if I'm not
> > too late.
> > I used to be a bonafide expert at a whole whack of games. I spent many
> > hours in my youth mastering a wide range of arcade and computer games.
> Me too.
> [lots of stuff with which I agree, snipped]
> > As soon as I "finish" the game, it completely loses it's appeal.
> Yes. I've been doing it long enough that I have had several instances where
> I was able to go back to a game long (10+ years) after mastery and dismissal
> and play it with a very strange sense of nostalgic deja vu. The games
> sometimes regain some appeal in that way.
> > Life lessons, all of these, I think.
> Agreed. And you're going on to discuss the downside for you. I really think
> that each person needs to decide if the pros and cons balance out for them in
> a way that is beneficial. Video/computer games did for me when I was young.
> They do less so now. But so did soccer. I see many similarities between
> computer games and other games (sport, board games, whatever). No one
> complains if their kid is a soccer or chess fanatic.
> > On the downside though, video games are also a way to escape from real
> > life. Even now, in my mid-30's , I find myself turning on a video race
> > car game or golf game for a little entertainment. I tune out the world
> > and focus on the fun of the game. After a long while of total
> > absorption, I finally finish and I really feel spent - and not at all
> > relaxed or rejuvenated - kind of like I feel after reading the newspaper
> > for too long or TV. It's not healthy for me.
> Must you feel relaxed and/or rejuvenated for an activity to be healthy? If I
> go for a long bike ride, neither of those words describe how I feel. "Spent"
> does a much better job. I might get wound up playing a computer game, but at
> least I'm feeling something different. I like a range of feelings. If I
> want to relax I go sit in the hot tub and listen to the birds while I read.
> My son's mother has two brothers who are mentally captivated by video games
> and turn mean when they get to playing their little Nintendo/SEGA/whatever it
> is, and she is afraid of that happening to our son. It didn't happen to me
> or any of my friends, but that doesn't mean that it couldn't to him. I tend
> to think that their "wasted life" is more a result of a messed up home life
> as kids, but who knows. Is this antisocial "meanness" the kind of
> psychological phenomenon that you feel from your computer games at all?
> Christopher Weeks
> If you wish to be removed from this mailing list, please send an email TO
> email@example.com with the following phrase in the BODY (not the
> subject) of the message:
> unsubscribe discuss-sudbury-model [the-subscribed-email]
> If you are interested in the subject, but the volume of mail sent is too much,
> you may wish to consider unsubscribing from this list and subscribing to
> This mailing list is archived at http://www.sudval.org/~sdg/archives
If you wish to be removed from this mailing list, please send an email TO
firstname.lastname@example.org with the following phrase in the BODY (not the
subject) of the message:
unsubscribe discuss-sudbury-model [the-subscribed-email]
If you are interested in the subject, but the volume of mail sent is too much,
you may wish to consider unsubscribing from this list and subscribing to
This mailing list is archived at http://www.sudval.org/~sdg/archives
This archive was generated by hypermail 2.0.0 : Mon Nov 05 2001 - 20:24:29 EST