Anna Babina (firstname.lastname@example.org)
Tue, 30 Jan 2001 15:27:03 +0300
there is one very important thing in what you described.
Your daughter accepted the school rules as a game. She didn't think it was real life. She didn't take it seriously. It's great
There are many kids who accept public school as the part of their world, as inevitable and obligatuary part of their lives. That's the lie of the public school supported by teachers, parents and the state. It's kind of madness which children catch from adults.
Your child understands that she has a choice. It's the best thing.
От: Alan Klein <Alan@klein.net>
Кому: email@example.com <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Дата: 23 января 2001 г. 7:36
Тема: Re: DSM: dancing
Anne, et al,
My youngest went to Highland as a preschooler (the child of staff members). After we moved to Maryland, she went to hand-picked local private schools. Hand-picked for being as close as we could get to democratic schooling. At sixth grade age, she decided to go to the local public school. The school she had been at was too small for her highly extraverted soul. In addition, her own sense of wanting to fit in led her to want to try the public school.
She is now a freshman in the local public high school and, while I can't say she has thought all that highly of her recent schooling experience, she has excelled at it. She has managed straight A's all the way through. She does this with absolutely no rewards from us, no mandates to complete homework before television/computer, and with the awareness that we would have preferred that she stay in her old school...the one we had picked for her. She does this with a minimum of effort, fuss, or bother. She works hard when she has to (to get the results she wants) and plays the system like a master...tracking her grades and working the extra credit game to bring that 89% up to an 89.5%, which rounds to an A (for example).
I don't know if this is the type of story you were looking for, but it's what your question provoked in me!
I would like to invite stories in this vein from DSM participants, I'm sure the stories are out there. They would help people like Susan and me a great deal. Stories about "Sudbury" parents with offspring in a mainstream coercive school (by the choice of the kid, not due to the circumstance of no "free school" being available).
You see, how do I know, how does any "newby" know, that Sudbury kids aren't being coerced into behaving as Sudbury kids should?
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