Re: DSM: : DSM: RE: pre-Sudbury parental coduc

Rayner Garner (
Thu, 11 Jan 2001 22:34:25 -0800

There was some research carried out in the 70's I think. A variety of
foods were laid out and children of varying ages were allowed to choose
for themselves. After a few months it was noticed that the children were
choosing from a variety of food groups and were instinctively eating an
excellently balanced selection of food.

When our daughter reached one day for solid food from our place we let
her take whatever she wanted. She basically gnawed on it as we didn't
cut it up in any way. As she still had plenty of breast milk to nourish
her we were not concerned as to whether she received much nourishment
from her munching.

Neither of our daughters were troubled by teething difficulties or
showed signs of distress from teeth emerging.
Rayner Garner

Anna Babina wrote:
> Cary,
> I also Love discussing this sort of things.
> I strongly believe that children want to see all the world happy. I also
> believe that even a little baby acts conciously and can
> make a serious choice. We can get the same result by punishment and by
> cooperating. In first case the kid will decide that she'd better do as
> mother says or... In the second case the child will find it important to do
> so to make mother happy. It's not manipulation.
> Example. My son is nearly 11 months now. When his first teeth were going to
> appear (4 months) he bit my breast terribly. Women know what it's like. I
> said firm "don't"s, my mother said she slapped my face or bottom in these
> cases but it didn't help. But once I simply started crying and told my son
> that I feel so unhappy. I did it three times and he never bit me anymore
> though he chews everything in the house. If he feels discomfort in the dents
> he stops eating bites a pillow or something else and only after that
> continues.
> Anna
> Moscow

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