Re: DSM: RE: Boredom

Robert Swanson (
Sat, 09 Dec 2000 00:55:56 -0800

Thank Heavens for heros and moms like you.


on 12/8/00 6:58 AM, at wrote:

> Susan and Sara,
> I put my son in a traditional first grade class after a time in at Fairhaven.
> As I was walking down the hallways to pick him up on his first day, the most
> depressing feeling came over me. What I saw, heard, felt was outright
> oppressive.
> When I reached my son's classroom, he saw me and ran for his backpack and
> couldn't get out of there fast enough. He "Get me outta here" look. The
> teacher started stuffing all this coloring junk into his backpack (One of
> them said, "color neatly."). He said, "I don't want that stuff." The
> teacher said, "You'll need to bring this back tomorrow." He said, "I'm not
> coming back tomorrow." I'm not coming back, ever." She said, "Oh yes you
> are." He said, "Why". She said, "Cause if you don't, I'll miss you." He
> looked her straight in the eye and said, "I'm NOT coming back here tomorrow."
> She talked with me briefly and told me he got up from his seat when he wanted
> to, got water without asking and even tried to go to the bathroom withouth
> permission. (heaven forbid!)
> Well, he didn't return. He was horrified and he really knew he did not want
> to go back there. The principal called me several days later and asked me
> what had happened to him. She said, "He actually thinks he has a choice in
> this." I said, "He most certainly does." Dead silence for some time. She
> said, "It's not healthy to give a young child that kind of responsibility."
> I asked her, "Why not?" (If she had a good reason, I was willing to listen.)
> She had no answer with any substance. She asked me what I'd do and I said, "
> "something else." She called me two times after that concerned about
> Matthew's "welfare." I simply told her it was no longer her concern. She
> then used the "scare" tactic. "By law, he must be educated." I responded,
> "Mrs. _________ I'm much more fearful of leaving my son at your school than
> breaking the law." She was just astounded. I wasn't about to tell her about
> Fairhaven. It's not my job to "enlighten" her. It would be like spitting in
> the wind anyway.
> Kathleen

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