Re: DSM: [SVS Discussion Board] Re: Child Safety

Tina (
Thu, 13 Apr 2000 16:54:07 -0400

At 04:03 PM 4/13/00 -0400, you wrote:
>In a message dated 4/13/00 12:06:39 AM, writes:
><< This is, unfortunately, an area where you really can't equate children and
>adults. Children tend to be "preyed" upon by a certain segment of society
>simply because they are children. The elderly and the handicapped have the
>same problem. >>
>Do you think the elderly and handicapped should make their own choices about
>where to go, or should less vulnerable people choose for them?
><< Further, they are physically smaller and weaker than the
>average adult (I'm referring mostly to the younger child here); even if
>they had the experience and wisdom to deal with these situations, they are
>simply not physically equipped to outrun or overpower an adult. >>
>Yes, and unarmed adults generally are not equipped to overpower someone with
>a gun. People who are out of shape can't outrun people who are in better

Both of these cases require an individual case-by-case basis. How
vulnerable? Is someone else responsible for them? Should they be? Young
children can be treated as a group in this case as they are - without
exception - unable to physically best the average adult. You can always
try and even out the comparison by upping the ante - I've got a knife,
you've got a gun, and this guy has a nuclear device - but a young child is
more vulnerable across the board.

>Of course there are different risks and dangerous things, and children should
>certainly be informed about them, but the choice is theirs.

I couldn't disagree with you more in this case. The whole object of
childhood in general and the child-parent relationship in particular, is to
allow the child to move from totally dependent to independent. It would be
a horrible lapse in my responsibility as a parent if I let my young child
do something dangerous simply because he wanted to. And if I had done
that, we wouldn't be having this discussion because my little angel would
have been dead by the age of two. If he were lucky.


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