<< I believe in the model, and I dig Holt, but I as a parent I cringe a
little at the idea of my 6 & 3 watching dramatizations of sex and violent
One of the conundrums of practicing this philosophy is that we adults weren't
usually brought up in it. We therefore need to be very careful about how we
"walk the talk" as they say. Cringing is one of the activities we need to be
OK with as we go about the business of raising our kids in ways that we
weren't raised ourselves.
Our youngest daughter (now 11) is fond of pointing out how weird it is that
one of our "family favorite" shows is "Buffy the Vampire Slayer". When she
was much littler she enjoyed "Eerie, Indiana". She is enamored of horror
films ("Scream", "I know What You Did Last Summer", etc.) and has read
"Goosebumps" books since she learned to read. She also is as apt (maybe more
apt) to turn off the TV and occupy herself otherwise as she is to watch more
than one show at a sitting.
Is she a Neo-Gothic, dressed-in-black, multi-pierced, purple-lipstick-and-eye-
shadow, anti-social, dropout type? Simply put...No. She's a straight A,
modern-dancing, still-kisses-Dad-goodbye-even-in-front-of-her-friends, down-
to-earth, one-hole-in-each-ear, multi-friended, jeans-and-t-shirt, joy to be
I truly believe that it is the quality and quantity of relationships and
interactons that matter in parenting (and educating). My experience, as I
believe Melissa said in a recent post, is that when we take away the
"forbidden fruit" aspect of TV, it begins to pale in comparison to other
pursuits and take up its "proper" place as one of many choices for
entertainment and information.