Re: Comparing the Sudbury Model

Charlie Wilkinson (cwilkins@boink.clark.net)
Fri, 11 Apr 1997 16:16:21 -0400 (EDT)

I believe it was Kaleb Axon who once said:
[...]
> I guess what concerns me is that you seem to be saying that too much
> parental presence hurts a child.

Was there ever any doubt? Too much of _anything_ is a bad thing. I
doubt that any halfway normal and healthy child wants to be with their
parents morning, noon and night, no matter how fantastic those parents
may be or how exciting the activities planned.

I'm certain opinions would still vary quite a bit from child to child
regarding whether or not they would want their parents around a lot, and
for how long. It hinges on the temperament of both parties. The point
here is that the choice is sometimes removed and that removing that
choice can be detrimental to a healthy parent-child relationship.

This issue is fairly complex, as there are going to be times when a kid
says "go away" but doesn't really mean it or would prefer to be left
alone but doesn't want to say so. This is where a close relationship
can help a parent read between the lines and be there when needed
without smothering a kid in too much love and attention.

Regards,
Charlie

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